Is this lady just determined to ride with these quarter horse friends? Could she locate a trail riding group in her area that is geared to the gaited set? Or check to see if TETRA in her area has a number of gaited members? Easier said than done.tho. we just had to drive too far, too long to participate in the only group we found and so finally gave it up but sure was a lot more fun than riding with quarter horses. I M sure if she was upfront about her issues and inexperience, they would probably help.